Invisible chains : overcoming coercive control in your intimate relationship /
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Author / Creator: | Fontes, Lisa Aronson. |
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Imprint: | New York : The Guilford Press, [2015] |
Description: | xvii, 217 pages ; 22 cm |
Language: | English |
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Format: | Print Book |
URL for this record: | http://pi.lib.uchicago.edu/1001/cat/bib/10512601 |
Table of Contents:
- About This Book
- How to Use This Book
- Who I Am and Why I Wrote This Book
- Part I. What is Coercive Control?
- 1. Introduction to Coercive Control
- The Continuum of Coercive Control
- Coercive Control in Context
- 2. Controlling Behaviors
- Isolating
- Cutting Off Contacts
- Cutting Off Access to Employment and Money
- Ruining Her Reputation and Relationships
- Isolating through Technology
- Isolating Immigrant Women
- The Special Isolation of Military Families
- Coercive Entrapment
- Resisting Isolation
- Micromanaging Everyday Life and Setting Rules
- Stalking and Monitoring
- Abusing Physically and Sexually
- Threatening and Punishing
- Guns and Other Weapons
- Manipulating
- Lying
- Withholding and the Silent Treatment
- Mind Games and Gaslighting
- Manipulating through Status and Special Skills
- Belittling and Degrading
- More Than Just Insults
- Degrading through Sex
- Extreme Degradation
- Controlling a Woman through Her Children
- Distancing a Mother from Her Children
- Undermining Her Parenting
- Threatening Her Children
- Part II. Why Coercive Control Happens
- 3. Why Some Men Control Their Partners in This Way
- Children Learn Their Gender Roles
- Boys Learn to Control and Abuse
- This Moment in History
- Men's Struggles Influence Their Behavior
- Trauma
- Alcohol, Drugs, and Mental Illness
- Why Some Men Won't Let Go
- 4. Why Some Women Get and Stay Involved
- All Women Are Vulnerable
- Trapped by Romance, Love, and Confused Feelings
- Trapped by Gender Expectations
- Trapped by Caretaking
- Trapped by Circumstances
- Trapped by Violence and Threats
- Managing the Unmanageable
- Resisting Every Day: Control in the Context of Being Controlled
- Part III. Coercive Control in Specific Populations
- 5. Different Gender Arrangements and Coercive Control
- LGBT People Facing Coercive Control
- Women Using Coercive Control with Their Male Partners
- 6. Teenage Victims of Coercive Control
- Teenagers' Vulnerabilities
- Isolation, Stalking, and Possessiveness
- Image Management
- Physical Abuse and Domination
- Drinking and Drugs
- Sexual Pressure
- Cell Phones and Computers
- Teens with Older Partners
- Pregnant and Mothering Teens
- LGBT Teens
- Young People Helping Each Other
- For Adults Who Care about Teens
- Part IV. Ending Coercive Control
- 7. Are You Being Victimized?
- Assessing the Relationship
- Controlling Relationship Assessment
- Assessing Lethality: Risk of Death
- Assessing Your Coping Strategies
- Final Thoughts on Assessing Your Relationship
- Reaching a Decision
- 8. Are You Staying? Expecting Change?
- Staying in the Relationship
- If a Controlling Person Wants to Change
- How Do You Know If a Controlling or Abusive Person Has Changed?
- When a Controlling Man Stops Being Physically Violent
- 9. Ending the Relationship
- Seek Support
- Domestic Violence Agencies
- Therapy or Counseling
- Medical Help
- Police and Advocates
- How Will the Abuser Respond If You End the Relationship?
- Create a Safety Plan
- If Your Partner Has Access to Guns
- Protect Your Money
- Protect Your Children
- If He Stalks You
- How Others May Respond If You End the Relationship
- Final Thoughts on Ending a Relationship of Coercive Control
- If the Abuser Ends the Relationship
- 10. Feeling Like Yourself Again: Recovering from Coercive Control
- How You May Feel If You End the Relationship Forgiving?
- Some Tips for Recovering from a Coercive Control Relationship
- Entering a New Relationship
- 11. If Someone You Care About Is Being Victimized by Coercive Control
- Especially for Family and Friends
- For Professionals in the Field
- 12. Conclusion
- Resources
- References
- Index
- Acknowledgments
- About the Author