Judo with words : an intelligent way to counter verbal attacks /
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| Author / Creator: | Berckhan, Barbara. |
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| Uniform title: | Etwas intelligentere Art, sich gegen dumme Sprüche zu wehren. English |
| Imprint: | London ; New York : Free Association Books, 2001. |
| Description: | viii, 142 pages : illustrations ; 23 cm |
| Language: | English |
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| Format: | Print Book |
| URL for this record: | http://pi.lib.uchicago.edu/1001/cat/bib/4426109 |
Table of Contents:
- Introduction: An Intelligent Way to Counter Verbal Attacks
- 1.. The Powerful Stance
- The Crash-barrier
- You Can Protect Yourself against Unfriendliness
- Talking Without Losing the Thread
- Calm and Persuasive Negotiations
- Test Your Own Protective Shield
- A Confident Presence
- Signs of Powerlessness
- The Price of Being Loved
- Be Visibly Ready to Defend Yourself
- Thoughts that are in the Way
- The Powerful Stance
- Leave the Powerlessness Behind: First Aid Measures after an Attack
- First Aid after an Attack
- Stress Makes you Stupid
- 2.. Winning Without a Fight
- No Resistance to the Attacker
- Save Energy
- A Nod and a Wink
- How Provocations Manipulate You
- Let the Attack Run Dry: Ignore it
- Let the Attack Run Dry: Wordless Gestures
- Gossips and Tactless People
- To Divert an Attack
- Change the Subject
- Nobody Can Force a Conversation on You
- Don't Justify your Diverting Strategy
- The Diversion
- Trash for Trash
- A Good Portion of Indifference
- No More Baffled Silence
- The Right Quip at Last
- The Two-Syllable Response
- Two Syllables for Know-Alls
- Don't Try to Change the Attacker
- 3.. The Quick-Witted Riposte
- Be Unpredictable
- Confuse Your Opponent
- Discard all Logic and Reason
- The Inappropriate Proverb
- Too Many Swallows...
- Dealing with Destructive Criticism
- Recognizing an Aggression
- Give Them a Chance
- Neutralizing Negative Criticism
- No Response
- Asking Questions Puts You in Control
- The Neutralizing Counter-Question
- You are Entitled to Positive Criticism
- Embrace Your Opponents and Paralyse Them
- Upset the Aggressor's Balance
- Giving In and Agreeing
- Giving In and Insisting
- Agreeing and Insisting
- Paralyse your Opponents by Admiring Them
- The Compliment
- 4.. The 'Black Belt'
- Don't Take Things Personally
- It's the Attacker Who Has a Problem
- Don't Dive into the Aggressor's Emotions
- The Neutral Statement
- Creating a Non-judgemental Atmosphere
- Stopping Insults
- A Radical Change of Behaviour
- The Confrontation
- Double Your Personal Power
- Aggressors Have to be Stopped in their Tracks
- Pull the Plug
- Digest the Shock
- A Good Life is the Best Revenge
- Talking Straight
- To See Through the Attacker
- Talking Straight
- Clarifying the Rules
- Airing Conflicts
- 5.. Develop Your Wit
- The Full Arsenal
- There is No Defeat--Only Experience
- Twelve Different Responses to One Attack
- The Training Programme
- The Right Response
- Trust Your Feelings
- A Final Word of Comfort