"In Sex and Love in Intimate Relationships, the authors explore the dimensions of sexuality and love. Drawing on their 40 years of combined clinical experience and a unique longitudinal study of couples and families, they propose that sexual problems are largely related to defenses acquired through painful childhood experiences. They describe the effects of the core defense, that is, the fantasy bond, which is an illusion of connection to the mother or primary caregiver. The fantasy bond is later transferred to a romantic partner and predisposes alienation in the relationship. The authors explain how secondary defences in the form of critical internal "voices" support negative views of the self and others, interfering with closeness and intimacy." "In clear language and conceptualization and through the liberal use of case material from therapy sessions, the authors show how individuals can be helped to overcome these challenges and become physically and emotionally closer to their partners."--BOOK JACKET.
