Opening up : a guide to creating and sustaining open relationships /
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| Author / Creator: | Taormino, Tristan, 1971- |
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| Edition: | 1st ed. |
| Imprint: | San Francisco, Calif. : Cleis Press, c2008. |
| Description: | xxv, 346 p. ; 22 cm |
| Language: | English |
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| Format: | Print Book |
| URL for this record: | http://pi.lib.uchicago.edu/1001/cat/bib/9136781 |
Table of Contents:
- Introduction: Opening Up to the Possibilities: Challenging Monogamy and Revolutionizing Relationships
- The Decline of Marriage and Monogamy
- Monogamy's Mythology
- Nonmonogamy as an Alternative Choice
- My Research
- Reading Opening Up
- Section 1. Choosing an Open Relationship
- Chapter 1. Pilots, Parties, and Polyamory: A Brief History
- Swinging
- Open Marriage
- Multilateral Marriage
- Gay Bathhouses and Sex Clubs
- Lesbian Collectives and Sex Wars
- Polyamory
- Chapter 2. Myths about Nonmonogamy
- Chapter 3. Is an Open Relationship for You?
- Self-evaluation
- Why People Choose Open Relationships
- Chapter 4. What Makes an Open Relationship Work?
- Consent
- Self-awareness
- Communication
- Honesty
- Boundaries
- Trust
- Fidelity and Commitment
- Section 2. Styles of Open Relationships
- Chapter 5. Partnered Nonmonogamy
- Definition
- Examples
- Potential Issues and Conflicts
- Chapter 6. Swinging
- Definition
- Beliefs and Attitudes
- Swinging Styles
- Community
- Etiquette
- Potential Issues and Conflicts
- Chapter 7. Polyamory
- Definition
- Beliefs and Attitudes
- Hierarchical Poly
- Nonprimary Partners
- Nonhierarchical Poly
- Nonsexual Poly Relationships
- Chapter 8. Solo Polyamory
- Definition
- Potential Issues and Conflicts
- Chapter 9. Polyfidelity
- Definition
- Benefits of Polyfidelity
- Negotiation and Potential Issues
- Chapter 10. Monogamous/Nonmonogamous and Mono/Poly Combinations
- Definition
- Consent and Agreement
- Potential Issues and Conflicts
- Section 3. Creating and Sustaining Your Relationships
- Chapter 11. Designing Your Open Relationship
- Drawing the Outline
- Filling in the Details
- Negotiation
- Rules and Agreements
- The Myth of Equality
- The Relationship Contract
- Chapter 12. Jealousy and Other Intense Feelings
- Jealousy
- Envy
- Insecurity
- Possessiveness
- Feeling Excluded
- Coping with Jealousy
- Fear of Abandonment
- Resentment
- Chapter 13. Compersion
- Chapter 14. Common Challenges and Problems
- New Relationship Energy
- Time Management
- Miscommunication
- Agreement Violation
- Seeking Help
- Chapter 15. Opening Up Again: When Something Changes
- A New Desire
- A New Orientation
- A New Relationship
- Falling in Love
- From Monogamous to Nonmonogamous
- From Nonmonogamous to Monogamous
- From Primary To Nonprimary
- Coping with Change
- Chapter 16. Coming Out (or Not), Finding Community, Creating Families
- Benefits of Coming Out
- Risks of Coming Out
- Deciding What's Right for You
- Your Coming Out
- Finding Community
- Families, Tribes, and Networks
- Chapter 17. Raising Children
- Benefits and Risks of Coming Out to Children
- What to Consider Before You Tell Them
- How to Tell Them
- Practical Issues
- Chapter 18. Safer Sex and Sexual Health
- Safer Sex
- Sexually Transmitted Infections
- Chapter 19. Legal and Practical Issues
- Housing Laws
- Property Ownership
- Employment Benefits
- Legal Designations and Documents
- Children
- Chapter 20. The Future of Relationships
- Appendixes
- Notes
- Resource Guide
- Books
- Conferences and Events
- GLBT/Queer
- Local and Regional Organizations
- National Organizations
- Online Groups and Lists
- Poly-friendly Professionals
- Research and Activism
- Spirituality
- Websites
- About the Interviewees
- About the Author